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As much as we might love a friend or a partner, if we have a different style of expressing it than our partner, a lot can be lost in translation. As Gary Chapman explores in his book “The 5 Love Languages” (which I summarized here<\/a><\/strong>), there are five different ways we express love, and prefer to receive affection in return. Today I will be discussing Quality Time Together<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When our styles are different, we might be left feeling unloved or uncared for. To avoid this happening, it\u2019s important to understand how each person communicates love and which style they thrive on in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

If you are curious about what your Love Language is, check out the official website here<\/a> to take a quiz, learn more, listen to podcasts, and find a whole bunch of official resources.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I will be writing about each style (Acts of Service<\/a>, Gifts<\/a>, Physical Touch<\/a>, and Words of Affirmation<\/a><\/strong>), and today’s is Quality Time Together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quality Time<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This love language might come more naturally at the beginning of a relationship\u2014in the \u201cgetting to know you phase,\u201d we\u2019re constantly making plans and dates. However, when we settle into routines, our relationships might not naturally feed this style anymore. If quality time isn\u2019t your style, you might assume that the hour you spend together watching movies or the time before bed when you\u2019re both reading is fulfilling your partner\u2019s needs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s important to realize, though, that hanging out in the same room isn\u2019t always enough<\/strong>. If your partner\u2019s love language is quality time, the key is not just time together, but quality<\/strong> time together. They want you to be present and plugged into them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This style is about giving them the gift of your time and attention. It lets them know that you\u2019re happy to give it to them. This means you\u2019re not sitting there on your phone or caught up emailing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Being present means you are giving them your real attention<\/strong>. They want to know that you genuinely enjoy being around them, and when you\u2019re not, you look forward to the next time you\u2019ll see each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, maybe that time watching Netflix together is plenty\u2014this style of communication is all about feeling cared for and loved enough to spend time with. It\u2019s about feeling connected on a regular basis and like you\u2019re a real part of each other\u2019s lives; you know what\u2019s going on, how they\u2019re feeling, and you aren\u2019t missing large chunks of their day-to-day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If spending an hour together watching a movie fulfills these needs, amazing! There\u2019s no right or wrong way to do quality time. However, there are some helpful suggestions for getting started or improving your moments together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How To Focus on Quality Time Together<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If your style of communication is quality time, what you do together probably doesn\u2019t matter as much as the fact that you\u2019re both truly present. New activities and solid alone time, however, can help your relationship flourish:<\/p>\n\n\n\n